Scapolite teaches you that emotional healing is not about revisiting past wounds. It is instead about releasing attachment to them as part of your identity. 
This stone is a strict, yet powerful teacher of emotional power use. It will help you understand how you may be using your power to manipulate other peoples emotions or actions, so you can come to understand a more balanced use of your emotional energy. Scapolite can assist those with low self esteem to find aspects of self to value and develop. Scapolite enables you to break self destructive patterns.